Most of us live in a state of codependence with our family, friends, or partners, or social groups who narrates our lives. For a change, be the author of your own life.
1. Autonomy
Compose the rules you should live by. Own your own reality, perceptions, feelings, opinions, and memories, and be completely unapologetic about it. Start by noticing the gap between your words and behavior, which you show to the world. Observe how you really feel.
2. Challenge your beliefs
Our opinions are often habitual and we do not stop to reflect on them. Our beliefs are mostly shaped by our external environment and the people we surround ourselves with.
3.Meet your needs
We often ignore our own needs and work hard to meet the needs of those over whom we are codependent. Identify your needs and act accordingly. Becoming assertive will improve your life and boost your self-esteem. You need to practice to be assertive. You need to set healthy boundaries and learn to say no.
4.Discover you Passion
It is very important to be content with yourself. To learn how to enjoy your own company, you need to discover your passion, your hobbies and spend time building yourself up.
Very often we are codependent on our close ones because we lack basic living skills. It is very important that we know how to survive alone.
5. Manage your finance
You need to learn how to manage your wallet. Learn how to save and budget your monthly expenses as well as long term plans with your income.
Before anything else, learn to forgive others and move on. Forgive yourself too. It is one of the most essential things that you can do to become independent.
